I didn't want a boyfriend, but I definitely wanted to have sex.
And give blow jobs.
So, what distinguishes between a boyfriend and a fuck buddy (or a friend with benefits)?
I had a relationship with this guy. I think it lasted around 2 years, perhaps. We never defined ourselves as bf/gf.
We were often together.
We hung out at his apt. At mine.
We watched movies.
We went out to eat.
We went to bars.
We got fucked up.
We fucked. A lot.
I don't think we ever claimed to be exclusive, but I don't think that we slept much with other people.
I think I did more than he did.
But time has made that all a little fuzzy.
To an outsider looking in, we were a couple.
But I didn't love him.
And I don't think he loved me.
Fuck buddies is all it was. At least in my mind.
I'm pretty sure we were on the same page with that.
We're still friends today.
Happily married to other people.
When asked how we know each other, my husband usually responds by saying, "Oh, they used to date."
This bothers me a little.
Because I never viewed that relationship in that way.
BUT what else are you gonna say to a group of people you don't really know?
Especially when his wife doesn't know we slept together. At all.
Never mind how frequently.
Boyfriend? Fuck buddy? What is the delineation between the two? Is it really just a matter of semantics? Is a relationship defined by those within it or by those viewing it?