Tuesday, August 9, 2011

TMI Tuesday - Cheating

Her: I saw you flirting with her. Cheater!
Him: It's not cheating if we don't have intercourse.
1. You have been separated from your significant other for six months. An attractive, attentive neighbor has paid you flattering attention. It is obvious he/she wishes to take the relationship further. Do you:
a. Dismiss him/her, you're in a committed relationship.
b. Continue to flirt, but go no further.
c. Fantasize about him/her, but take care of your sexual needs solo.
d. Let the affair become physical.
This would really depend on what kind of arrangements we'd made before our separation and the nature of the separation. I'd like to say D because six months is a long time, but Jasper and I aren't quite to that point yet, so definitely B, and of course, C.

2. A male co-worker whom you have heard is great in bed and very well endowed has been flirting with you a lot. He obviously wishes to start a relationship. Do you: (This question is for women AND men).
a. Make it clear to him you're not interested.
b. Flirt with him but go no further
c. Mentally undress him and wonder what he'd be like in bed.
d. Let the relationship become sexual.
Um. B-D? With Jasper's consent, of course. I'm great in an MFM, so maybe we could try that. lol.

3. Your significant other is impotent most of the time, showing little interest in you and little interest in being sexual. Do you:
a. Resign yourself to no sex.
b. Satisfy your needs with masturbation
c. Find someone who can satisfy you sexually but remain with your significant other
d. Leave him or her
Absolutely B, and I'd like to think C would be an option. I doubt I would leave him over such a thing, but if he truly stopped showing an interest in me - sexual or otherwise - I'm not sure how long I'd be able to stand that.

4. The last time you and your mate had sex, were you:
a. Concentrating mostly on him/her, and you didn't even orgasm
b. Thinking about your pleasure and theirs.
c. Concentrating mainly on your own pleasure.
d. Used his/her body as a tool to reach your own orgasm.
I think the last time it was a little more about me. :) So, maybe it was C, but no, I think it was somewhat equal, so B. It's just he was doing such a good job on me, that my focus may have drifted a little away from him.

5. What kind of partner do you prefer while making love or having sex?
a. Tender, loving, slow and sweeet
b. I don't care, just do me; it's been a while
c. Tough, take-charge, I like it a little rough
d. Any lovin' is good lovin'
Sometimes it's C; many times it's A; all the time it's D.

Bonus: Do you mind if your significant other ogles/checks out another sexy person? What if they comment on that person, do you mind that? I really never have. Well, I guess that's not entirely true. Sometimes it bothers me but only because I then start comparing myself to all the other women out there and start having body image issues. I know it's all in my head, and Jasper is fully satisfied with me and thinks I'm beautiful, but still, sometimes insecurity creeps in. All that being said, we have often done a lot of people watching together - pointing out all the nice asses and attractive people. Good times.

Bonus, Bonus: What are your thoughts on the TMI Tuesday image and the caption beneath it? I think it's a fun, interesting photo that perfectly captures a moment. I have mixed feelings on the caption. What is cheating? There seem to be so many definitions and so many different lines. Personally, I think if it makes your partner uncomfortable, you shouldn't do it - whatever your definition may be.

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Happy TMI Tuesday!

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  1. Your openness is always so refreshingly sexy.

    1 - it would be ideal to have a prearranged agreement that both people felt comfortable with - there is a religion which has a concept of a "temporary marriage" which allows a person traveling for an extended time to enter into a "marriage" to last for a specific amount of time, it was kind of surprising when I read about it.

    2 - I LOVE the way your mind thinks

    3 - so true, there has to be something there at least to bind things together

    4 - you deserve to indulge and just enjoy

    5 - when it comes right down to it, I guess I'd really also have to go with (d)

  2. Bonus, Bonus: "Personally, I think if it makes your partner uncomfortable, you shouldn't do it - whatever your definition may be."That's it in a nutshell isn't it? If it makes the partner feel uncomfortable and you know this, you probably shouldn't be doing it.-H

  3. That temporary marriage thing certainly sounds interesting...and a bit surprising, too.


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