Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Predicament

It's been a few months since Jasper and I decided to open our marriage and just a few weeks since our first threesome, which was with a guy we met via Craigslist. It was such a fantastic night, and we're definitely looking forward to the next time we can get together with CL1.

We've discovered it's so much easier to find men to join us in the bedroom. Jasper really wants to be with another woman (and I do, too), but so far we've had no luck.

We've tried Craigslist.
We've tried Adult Friend Finder.

This past weekend, we attended a wedding out in Oregon. There were definitely some smokin' hotties in the bridal party and in attendance in general. We really, really wanted to hook up with a few of them, but our polyamorous ways are just not that acceptable in society right now.

I got pretty fucking wasted and definitely probably pushed a few too many boundaries. My memory is spotting, but I do recall at least one woman telling me that no, she would not go back to our room with us.

As I was grinding on a married man out on the balcony at the very end of the evening, Jasper was having a conversation with another woman about our views on sexual relationships. She said she was fine with it, but she'd be super pissed at me if I was grinding on her man like that. Which begged the question of why? Why should the blame be put on me when he, whose wife was in the room with their two kids, was doing nothing to push me away, but was, in fact, encouraging me to continue -- especially considering that my husband was present and totally cool with what was going on?? It just seemed odd to both of us.

Anyway, I feel I started to go off on a bit of a tangent. Our predicament is this...we definitely want to be a polyamorous couple but are at a bit of a loss of how to continue, when society is so against us.

For my readers who may not be into the polyamorous thing, how might you react if a couple came on to you in a bar or at a party? For those who might agree with our lifestyle, do you have any good suggestions on meeting like-minded people?

12 comments:

  1. I love the idea but my wife does not . Oh well, life is not perfect. I look forward to seeing how things developed.

    Why does MN have to be so far from NY?

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  2. MM, I hope you're enjoying reading about our developments. Oh, and I ♥ NY!!

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  3. I love the idea but my wife does not . Oh well, life is not perfect. I look forward to seeing how things developed.

    Why does MN have to be so far from NY?

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  4. MM, I hope you're enjoying reading about our developments. Oh, and I ♥ NY!!

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  5. JustfourfuntonightDecember 1, 2011 at 6:52 PM

    I'll join!

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  6. Come on over. :)

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  7. AdultFriendFinder is so full of fakes.
    We have had some successes there in the past, but nothing lately.

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    1. Yeah. We're not even members anymore, which is probably both good and bad.

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    2. We are still there. Gotta keep trying right?!

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    3. Absolutely! We've moved to a new state, but we've got to get back in the game soon. :)

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    4. If you both are ever in Chicago look us up!

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